Throw Me A Lifeline



Fear of failure can be just as debilitating as fear of heights, or any other fear. Not only does it stand alone as a fear, it is coupled with other fears people struggle with. For example, a person with a fear of flying also has a fear of failure… failure of being unable to get on a plane without being terrorized and having others notice.

Fear of failure, however, is the easiest fear to overcome.  Unlike other more insidious fears that require conditioning to defuse, fear of failure requires one or two successes to diminish it’s strength.  AND those successes can be assisted by outside means.

Let me explain.

Back to our flying/failure combo.  Fearful flyers can get through a flight by getting drunk (sometimes works), taking sedatives (also has a minimum success rate), or utilizing some other chemical inhibitor. They seek to change the way the brain responds to the fear.

The same can be done with a fear of failure but without harmful chemicals.  Fears of failure, after all, require just one of two successes to diminish their intensity.

Imagine facing any fear with a sense of calm. You’re more likely to get through the stressful event successfully and come out the other side knowing you are strong. How do you get that calm? By  diffusing the chemicals in the brain that heighten our sense of fear.

Essential oils counter the fight or flight chemicals in our brains and cause us to think more rationally during times of anxiety or fear.  Here are a few suggestions for essential oil application:


  • Wild orange, bergamot, lime — all give a calm sense of well being and are uplifting to the mood.
  • Lavender – calming
  • Frankincense – brain tonic, neurotonic, mind clearing, awareness, uplifts spirit, restores DNA and RNA




About leisatwatkins

In May 2011, I hit an all time low in my life and an all time high in my weight. I was 199 pounds and the idea of hitting 200 scared me. I had tried every known diet, HCG, Weight Watchers, Jenny Craig, Atkins, the grapefruit diet. I'd even tried Phen-phen when I was younger and Dexatrim before that. While I'd lose a little weight, I would always gain it back and then more. I knew the yo-yo dieting was not healthy for my body and it was definitely wreaking havoc on my mental wellness. I didn't know what to do and I was looking into taking drastic surgical measures to lose weight. That's when a friend of mine told me his story about losing over 200 pounds without pills, surgery, or starving himself. Not only did he lose the weight, but he kept it off. What did I have to lose? I asked him to share the secret with me. Now, only six short months later, I weigh 140 lbs and am working on losing 5 more. That will put me back to my weight that I was in HS, college, and before I had children. And I've done it with my friend's help as my Health Coach, without starving or even exercising, although I love to walk everyday. I haven't felt hungry at all in this process. How many "diets" can say that? I feel fantastic! I've felt great since the first week on this program. Let me be very clear about this. This is NOT a diet. This is not something you do for a little while, lose the weight, then go back to your old eating habits. This program is a life changing plan to help you eat healthier, make food choices that are tailored to your body, and bring you to a state of optimal physical health. If like me, you are tired of diets that don't work, then let me show you a life style plan that does.

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